God is a Matchmaker lesson 2

God is a Matchmaker lesson 1

I must have read this book over a dozen times in the couple of months that I had it.

Romans 12:1 says to present our bodies as living sacrifices to God. Surrender makes our bodies holy, the altar makes the sacrifice holy (Matthew 23:19). This therefore applies to your whole body when it is placed on the altar of surrender. Therefore I can be set apart for God and made Holy.

Romans 12:2 God will renew your mind. God will not reveal His secrets or open His treasures to  a mind at enmity with Him. But when your mind is renewed you will begin to discover all that God has planned.

Life Lesson: Do not make my own decisions from now on. I find out God’s decisions and make them mine! God gives His best to those who leave the choice to Him.

Appreciation and thankfulness to God for what He’s done, doing, and going to do! Appreciation is the inward reaction to Gods goodness. Thankfulness is the out ward expression of that appreciation. Be thankful and say so! (Ps. 100:4)

It’s impossible to be selfish and self-centered when you’re giving thanks to God for what only He can do. Get your mind off yourself and on to Him and the hope that you have for a future, a mate, love and marriage will seem strangely dim next to the Glory of the Father shining in your life.

Guidelines:

1. Obeying Gods Word. Psalm 119:105 reminds us that obedience to Gods word will keep us on the path that is leading to Gods plans for my life.

2. Walking in fellowship. 1 John 1:7 lets us know that doing so will allow the blood of Christ to cleanse us from sin. The right kind of fellowship is what God has in mind for our benefit, growth and relationships. (2 Corinthians 6:14-15, Psalm 119:63)

3. Being led by the Spirit. Romans 8:14. Total Dependence on the Holy Spirit, seek His direction in all things big and small. Sensitive ears must be tuned to Him. “Lord help me to be always in the right place at the right time. I pray in the knowledge that only the Holy Spirit can make this happen”. I must be sensitive to Him and how He guides.

4. Guarding your heart (Proverbs 4:23) First discover the mate that God has approved of. Then, release your emotions toward that person to God. That way you wont need to recall the flood if it gets too intense. Avoid fantasy or day dreaming about who this mate may be. It puts God in a box and may not match what He has in mind. (Don’t I  know it!)

5. Waiting on God. (Is 64:4) Waiting tests our faith – only faith that passes the test is accepted by God as genuine. Waiting purifies our motives: (Gods Will or my own?) Waiting also builds character to maturity. A person who has learned to wait is no longer at the mercy of fluctuation moods and emotions.

6. Planning for resurrection John 12:24. The relationship that you believe God for may have to pass through death and resurrection before it is ready to be cultivated.

7. Seeking Godly counsel from those older in years and faith. There is great value in Godly counsel and much can be learned, avoided and rectified by the wisdom provided from trusting servants of the Lord. proverbs 12:15, 15:5

8. Seeking Gods Favour. Proverbs 19:14, 18:22. Gods satisfaction must be your highest ambition. Approach everything with what will please the Lord. ps. 37:4 He will implant  the desires and then fulfill them!

For me number 5 and 8 are the most precious lesson that can be learned. And maturing in these areas will not only bring the best harvest of fruit to our lives, but also prepare us the greatest for being Godly woman and wives for our beloved husbands (to be).

 

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God is a Matchmaker lesson 1

God is a Matchmaker

I read this book over the summer before sweets and I started spending time together. I sincerely think it may have been the reason I was ready for him when the opportunity presented itself…..again! Up until I read this book I was still closed to what God may have had in mind and simply kept to my own vision and plans.

After reading this book my whole thoughts on marriage began to change.  I started to pray for Gods will instead and asked Him to open me up to His plan. Once I prayed that, with my whole heart in sincerity, God answered that very prayer and I saw sweets as a totally different man standing before me.

The seven basic principles that Derek Prince describes in his book: (my notes are in green)

1. God initiated marriage at the beginning – not Adam and Eve Note that God was the one who said a suitable helper for Adam could not be found (Genesis 2:20)

2. Decision to marry is from God not man God was the one who caused the deep sleep to fall upon Adam. (Genesis 2:21)

3. God knew the kind of helper man needed – not man God knew a beast was not the best helper for Adam but one made bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh. (Genesis 2:23)

4. God prepared the woman for the man God took the rib from Adam and made he woman. (Genesis 2:21) A woman’s time  as a single should be spent preparing for Godliness and marriage, not searching, worrying or moping around.

5. God presented the woman to the man and brought her unto the man. (Genesis 2:22) God set the whole thing up. He prepared the woman, and when she was ready God Himself placed her in the right place at the right time for the two of them to meet. When Adam looked at Gods choice all he could say was “Wow man!” He was pleased!

6. God ordained the purpose of their life  – which is unity and they shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24) God had a purpose in uniting Adam and Eve. He has a purpose still in all He does. God is not bored and He is not wasteful of anything or anyone. He will always have a purpose in the things He does. God will still have a purpose in the marriages of today.

7. Jesus upheld God’s original plan for marriage as binding on all those who follow him.  It is still enforced today. Jesus reminds them that Gods Word in Genesis is still the marriage standard to live by. (Matthew 19:4-6) God has not changed His mind! He still has this ideal in mind to unite and join together into one Flesh. For earth to represent the heavenly union between Christ and His bride. (Ephesians 5:32)

Once I began to understand this and meditate on the Gods words in regards to the creation of man and woman; I clearly could see that my reasons for wanting to marry had nothing to do with what would Glorify the Lord the most, but only what I wanted and what I thought I needed to be happy.

I was running around trying to find my mate instead of allowing God to both prepare me and present me to the one who is in need of my help.

I believe this is why so much of the time we can see couples marrying mates that hold strengths where their mate holds weakness. God is all about balance and unity.

When Paul talks about being yoked it paints the picture of working together with a common goal or purpose. That helps me understand how I am to work with my husband for the common goal and purpose that the Lord has for us to do while we are here. (Ephesians 2:10)

*For more thoughts on Ephesians 2:10*

God is a Matchmaker lesson 2