Too shy to pray

A short time ago I posted about the book “power of a praying wife.” I can not tell you how much this has helped me to help focus on my marriage as whole and to not take our life or love for granted. It also helps me keep God in the center. Remembering that the only thing that can keep us strong is Christ Himself.

I continue to pray for my husband daily, and as things come up I apply more time and effort in the more urgent areas. However, one thing I have recently noticed is that Sweets and I do not pray together as we used to when we were courting. When we started our relationship, he began coming to Sunday night prayer service with me. This is a time of worship and prayer only. We are asked to not speak to one another during this time and to focus on the Lord.

Of course praying for and with each other is expected and encouraged (just not conversation, and it is not the time for counseling.)  Sweets and I prayed together every Sunday during those months of courtship and now on Sunday nights we still pray together the same. But when we were dating, we would pray before each of our dates many times, and at the end to really ask the Lord to make a way for us, or make clear the path we should take  and protection going home ect..

Once the Lord gave us Blessing for our marriage, I suddenly became too shy to pray in front of Sweets! I am not sure why this is! And now that we live together, we pray every meal but that’s it (as far as together  I mean – he still prayers on his own on the balcony every morning and I still pray on my own after he leaves for the gym.) But aside from meals or Sunday nights we just don’t seem to make it a priority together.

I am hoping to make a change in this though. First I have to get over my shyness and pray out loud for my husband! Does anyone else struggle with this?!

I want him to know what I am praying so that he can agree and I know that this will be an intimate act between us as well. I always felt that connection and closeness when we were dating. Now more than ever we need to keep this a priority I think, maybe it will help even greater in our communication (which is still in need of adjustment in many respects!) Thank goodness for unconditional love, and the grace to acknowledge this early on. I truly have a wonderful man, friend, lover and companion!

Now that I am bursting with thanksgiving to the Lord for my husband, I will take this opportunity to share with him how much I love, appreciate and respect him….and pray together – for many more years to come!

Blessings to you!

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The Power of Prayer

I love the book The Power of a Praying Wife!

I got it right before Sweets and I were married. I read it through as a whole during our engagement. At that time I started to pray through some of the areas that Stormie Omartian highlights as important areas to pray specifically for.

Now I have been married for just under 2 months and I have read this through another 3-4 times. I make an effort to pray for at least a couple of each of these areas for my husband on a regular basis.

I looked quite a bit for a blog, or commentary on this book before I bought it, just to be sure it would be useful for me and my life before spending the money. But sadly I did not find too, too much that was helpful. I am thankful that int he end  I purchased the book. I would recommend it to any women who is married, engaged or one day plan to be.

As I mentioned, I prayed through many of these areas before my wedding and it was a good habit to start. Another unexpected benefit is that it opened my eyes to areas in my husband’s life that a) I didn’t even consider he may be struggling with, b) I hadn’t  realized existed, or that I never thought would affect myself or our marriage.

Over the next few weeks and maybe months (depending on how much time i can find!) I do want to expand on these thoughts and areas to include some of the things that totally were new to me but also the changes I have seen take place in the course of just two months!

Why not try to pray in one of these areas everyday for a month. Note the changes not just in your husband but also in yourself, the way you relate to your husband and most importantly your relationship with the Lord.

1. Wife – prayer for yourself to be a Godly Wife.

2. Work – to be balanced and fulfilling.

3. Finances – not praying for more money, but using the money to Glorify God be giving, saving and wise.

4. Sexuality – sexual fulfillment and satisfaction for both partners.

5. Affection – Forming emotional bonds, and meeting needs for affection.

6. Temptations – those you may know about, suspect and ones you are not aware of.

7. Mind – clarity, unity, a sound mind at peace.

8. Fears – those you know about and those that you do not. Many men fear not being able to take care of their family, not having work, or illness that leaves them unable.

9. Purpose –  as a man, a husband, and a servant to his Creator.

10. Choices – In all areas of life, that he will be wise and led by the Lord.

11. Health –  Protection and prevention as well as healing and wholeness.

12. Protection – From immediate and possible threats, danger and accidents.

13. Trials – to keep strong and faithful through character building struggles that he may need to go through in order to be a greater husband, man or Christian.

14. Integrity – doing what is right because it is right in ALL situations, to stand against opposition and being mediocre .

15. Reputation – to not be spoiled, or tarnished by such things as gossip, jealousy, misunderstandings or mistakes.

16. Priorities – to be in the right order, balanced and that he gives strong attention to those areas that are eternally significant.

17. Relationships – with everyone around him. In and out of the house. Especially for trustworthy, Godly men friends to help him, encourage him and guide him when needed.

18. Fatherhood – that he be confident, strong and sensitive, as well as present and attentive.

19. Past – anything that might be cause of concern, habits, learned behavior and things that hold him back, bring him down and cause ill thoughts or feelings to haunt him in any way.

20. Attitude – To be Spirit filled and not fleshly, that he would be thankful and grateful and not critical or negative.

21. Marriage – Pray against divorce, adultery or distrust. This is important no matter how perfect the marriage is now. Pray for joy and peace and unity as well.

22. Emotions – namely that he will not be guided by them but by the Lord only. That he will not act on his emotions but be stable, self-controlled and able to discern.

23. Walk – That he will walk in all the ways of the BIble. That he will be guided by the Lord and directed by Him on his paths each day. To walk in righteousness and holiness ect.

24. Talk – That he may bridle his tongue, speak wisdom and truth and that he will not be foolish with the power of his words.

25. Repentance – That he would be sensitive to the Lords ways, and have an honest and humble heart to easily repent for his sins and seek the Lords strength for making him a better man.

26.  Deliverance – From anything that may have a hold on his life, thoughts, heart and behaviour. These may be known, or a hidden struggle deep within him. Only God can heal and bring wholeness.

27.  Obedience – To the Lord of course. That he would be still and know God, accept whatever works God has planned for him to walk in and that he would easily obey no matter what he feels or thinks about the situation.

28.  Self-Image – identity in Christ and viewing himself as God sees him. Poor self Images can lead to missed opportunities, fears and other hindrances to growing in the Lord and being a strong husband capable of leading  as well.

29.  Faith – To carry him through all things, to be unwavering and to be placed in the right source.

30.  Future – Vision and direction for the future as well as hope and ambition to motivate decisions. Men need goals to work towards and Gods vision for the future is a great driving force for a husband and his family.

I learned SO much from praying these little things and adding my own concerns, thoughts and personal aspects of Sweets personality to each prayer.

Prayer really can change the course and path a man is walking on. Only when God is invited into the midst can there be any hope for an alternate destination.